Is it bad to talk about your ex?

Good, bad and ugly… or hot we all have exes, but do we need to talk about them?

When you’re getting to know someone, their past is an important part of who they are. It isn’t something that should just be ignored, because whatever has happened to them before influences who they are today. Whether that’s good or bad, it’s something you should share with your partner – maybe that’s something to do with an ex.

While I wouldn’t suggest talking about this on a first date, don’t avoid it. Understanding someone’s past, whether that be relationships or experiences, will help foster communication in your relationship. Without communication, a relationship just won’t work.

There’s a right way to ask about someone’s ex and definitely make sure to respect your partner’s boundaries. If you ask and they don’t want to talk about it, then don’t press them for information. Wait for them to open up when they’re ready! If you want to talk about a past relationship, then go for it.

It’s important to be open about your past, present and future in a budding relationship. But, as for exes, if someone is bringing them up all the time or dwelling on that person, it could be a red flag. In my mind, that might mean they aren’t over that relationship, and aren’t ready for a new one.