While you’re stuck working from home, organizing your kitchen, playing with your dog or managing kids that are off school – there’s no better time to reset and reflect. As we go through this pandemic, I’ll be telling my own story of self-love and hopefully giving you perspective on how you can better love yourself. This way, when we come out of the quarantine we’ll all be SO ready to date!

It’s not the most ideal time for dating. Everything has to be online, and when it comes to making connections – it’s not easy virtually. I started this business to help people meet in person, rather than online; since we can’t do that right now let’s work on some self-love!

By definition self-love is the regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. Sounds great, right?

I want to take a closer look at flaws and how we can appreciate and love ourselves with all the good and the bad. You’ll have to do this with a partner one day too (or likely you already are) so we might as well practice on ourselves.

I’m not saying this is easy, but while we all have extra free time, let’s tackle the challenge head-on. Taking the easy way is never as rewarding.

Sometimes it’s hard to appreciate ourselves, but why? It could be because we focus so much on flaws. Sure, everyone has them, but why do we let flaws be all-consuming? We’ve all done it in a relationship, where you focus on someone else’s shortcomings. I think to many people it’s easier to stay in a negative space instead of addressing whatever is making us feel ‘less than.’

This week try to work on embracing those flaws with PERSPECTIVE! This is my word for 2020, and can apply to literally everything, and boy do we need it right now. Try the following to change your perspective on flaws:

  1. Write down all the things you love about yourself! (at least 5)
  2. Write down the things that frustrate you about yourself… and now try to write all those things as a positive, think of how those things can help you rather than hurt you.
  3. Figure out ways to cope with this flaw
  4. Accept the “flaw” for what it is – it’s a part of you! Take away judgements from within and try not to compare yourself to others.

I did this with one of my flaws…

  • I can be controlling, and it’s difficult for me to trust someone else to do a job or task.
  • Writing as a positive: I know what I want and know how to get that accomplished.
  • Coping with flaw: letting others do things for me and realizing there are multiple ways to accomplish the same task.
  • Accepting the flaw: This is something that makes me who I am. If I wasn’t a bit controlling I would be as successful as I am.

Let me know how this goes for you!